Enameled with grace

You are enough. So I finally removed all of the pictures that would make me feel uncomfortable that were on my Instagram page.... For some time now I've really been thinking of how I want to show myself to the world and the people around me. Sometimes I look at the posts that are on my personal Instagram page and I feel really uncomfortable😂. I know it's weird, like how could my own pictures make me feel uncomfortable? I noticed that certain poses, facial expressions and many other different things just didn't reflect the person I want to be or the person that I'm working on becoming. I spoke to my friend, Tino❤, about it (follow her @tinotenda_nyemba) and she said that it's actually so crazy how she was just thinking about the same thing the day before. She said... "The other day I was talking to one of my friends and I was explaining to her that modesty is progressive. Today something may be comfortable and the next day it’s not. It’s according to co...

Embrace don't reject  What you embrace is what becomes your reality. One of the hard lessons that I've had to learn this year. There were so many things that I wanted to happen this year which ended up not even being part of the agenda. When I finished high school I really thought I had it all figured out. Where I wanted to go, what I wanted to do, who I wanted to be as well as the time frames in which I wished to attain these "goals". A lot of things didn't go my way and I had to give in to the fact that everything I wanted was for the wrong reasons and that's why most of my desires seemed so impossible to reach. I just wanted to stunt, prove a point and be independent. I wanted to be "free" because I chose to believe there was something far better out there. I thought I was ready and that people would have to let go of me eventually. But life did what it always does best. It humbled me. Earlier on in the year I had a conversation with a girl ...

RULE #2 In your walk with Christ there are so many things that you will learn about God the more you spend time with him. To remember those things I sometimes try to to put them in order of what I learnt about God first, the second thing I learnt, the third thing I learnt and the list goes on and on. Just to remind myself of the God that I serve. I don't think that we will ever actually stop learning and discovering more and more things about God because he is bigger than life itself. But I just wanted to share with you guys on the second thing that I learnt about God in my walk with Christ. The things that I think are important for us to know as his children. Rule #1: God loves you Rule #2: God hates sin I know it would've made more sense for me to start with Rule #1 but that post will be endless. If we look at the things that God has done for me, for you, for our families and friends through his love it's all just so incredible. So that post will actually not en...

Life, the period between birth and death. For most of this year I've been trying to make sense of a lot of things at level that is deeper than the surface. I've been putting effort into really getting to know the people in my life as well as what goes on in their lives. The causes behind every event, the thought process behind every decision, the lessons learnt behind every experience and the reasons behind every action. This has led to me having way too many "what is life!?" moments. I've managed to make sense of some things. However, I still fail to come to terms with other things. Which is okay I guess because well we can't always make sense of everything that happens in life but we can choose how to respond to those things even when we don't understand them. One thing that I've definitely learnt is that every experience has either an identical or opposite effect on a person. You either end up going through life trying to reciprocate the same way...

Spiritual and emotional healing   A while back I asked people on that "Ask me a question?" feature on instagram, what they'd want me to talk about on my blog. One of the topics that came up was healing. At the time I didn't feel like I was the rightful person to write about healing because I myself was undergoing that process and hadn't gotten to where I wanted to be yet concerning it . I didn't want to be hypocritical about it. So on that day, which was sometime in March if I remember correctly. I just typed the heading "Healing" in my memo and left it like that😂 and it's been like that since March because I didn't know what to say. No content, just the heading "healing". However, I soon came to understand that just because you're not where you want to be yet it doesn't make you a hypocrite for wanting to help people with the same issue. As you go through it you learn, grow and gain wisdom. Today was the las...

Opposites don't attract Hey guys I hope you're all good and that life is treating you well🥀❤. So I'm back with relationships part 3 and it was basically inspired by a conversation that I had with someone recently at a farewell party that I had attended for one of my friends who was going off to university. So yeah I'm not here to rant today 😂I just wanna share some of the stuff that I found to be really good from that conversation. So basically this guy (25) recently got engaged and at some point during the farewell we were all just congratulating him. Then I asked him "how did you know?". How did you know it was her and how did you know that it was time? I always ask a lot of people this question and I always get the answer, "I just knew". Which I guess is alright but I've always wanted to understand it a bit deeper. So this guy's explanation was so enlightening. He explained that he made a deliberate decision to s...

Godfidence Hey guys❤ So Recently my older sister Sharon (@sharonmanyika) got me this pink sweater that had the word "GODFIDENCE" in big bold black letters printed on it. If you check out my instagram page (@miss_toryyy) you'll actually see it on my feed. It made me realise something but we'll get to that later on in the post. Every time I put it on I just feel different. I assume that the word " Godfidence" is a mash up of the words "Godly" and "Confidence". A part of me never actually acknowledged the fact that at some point this girl wasn't okay, but she is now and that's all that matters. She's come a very long way but she doesn't always give herself credit for it because she's so focused on where she wants to be. Which isn't a bad thing but it's important not to forget where God took you from. Ever felt replaceable? Maybe because someone made you feel that way, maybe a particular situation made you feel...

Hey guys❤ I hope you're all good and that life is treating you well. For some time I've been meaning to share the inspiration behind the name of my blog " Enameled with grace ". It's taken some time for me to do that because I wanted to make sure that I did it justice. The name of my blog is not original. In fact I got it from this quote which talks about the brilliance of a black woman. "Dipped in chocolate,  Bronzed in elegance,   Enameled with grace and  Toasted with beauty.  My Lord, she is a Black Woman". I'd say that this quote played a huge role in accepting who I am and realizing my value in this undermining world. The  Enameled with grace part stood out to me the most because well " enameled " means to coat or decorate, and " grace" is God blessing us inspite of our unworthiness. It is unmerited favour. Favour is different from grace because favour is the tangible evidence that a person has the approval of God. ...

Recently I came across a particular statement that was passed by a certain Hollywood actress. I'm sure she was getting interviewed. However, I'm not quite sure how the interview was going or what led to the conversation in which she made the statement I am about to share with you guys. She spoke about how she doesn't always go to church with her husband because "church folk are judgmental". Her husband isn't a pastor. However, he is a highly respected Christian motivational speaker who shares the word. He is also a well respected movie producer. She mentioned that it feels like she doesn't receive correction which comes from a place of love but rather it comes across as judgement. So she decided that she doesn't want to get discouraged and would rather "protect" her spirit. Now this statement got me so worked up because I just didn't understand😂. Y'all can help me understand guys because you know I always appreciate feedback but I...

Insecurity - uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; lack of confidence. Hey guys😊❣I hope everybody is good and taking care. Today I wanted to talk about something that we all deal with at some point in our lives. Everything I talk about on my blog is always something that I've dealt with before, struggled with, maybe even still struggling with or have conquered. Insecurity drills a hole into a person’s heart, minimizes their integrity, and accumulates as plaque build up, hindering any kind of future growth. An insecure person is a defeated person. Just as any human being’s growth is stifled by the insecurity within them. Everybody  has something that they haven't come to terms with about themselves. Some have and are working towards being a better version of themselves, but some still feel inadequate to the point where they have come to terms with things that aren't true.   The most 3 common causes of insecurity are: Type 1: Insecurity Based on R...

The drinking I'm talking about is not in the literal sense, but in the spiritual sense. You drink from the people around you. You can drink life, love, happiness, joy and all the wonderful things that help grow and nourish your spirit. However, you could also drink whatever poison it is that they may be giving you. By drinking I mean what value, be it spiritually, emotionally or physically do the people around you add into your life? Mainly focusing on your spirit though because whatever happens in the spiritual manifests into the natural, so when your spirit is good everything else will also be good. When we talk about the people around you it's referring to your family and those you call your friends. Those are usually the most influential people in your life, and you drink from them because they are the ones that you spend the most time around. You pick a lot of things from them. I feel that friends can actually be more influential than your own family most of the time. Whic...

Today I'm 19😊😅🎉🎊🎁💃🏾👑❣💫 And I'm so glad to be getting rid of 18 year old Vicky because yeah, the most happened with with her😂 just kidding. But seriously, stepping into adulthood was a huge change for me and I know that it's just the beginning. So much happened in such a short space of time and I'm grateful for it all regardless🙏🏾. As time goes by we live and we learn. However, there are a few things that have really stood out from some of the experiences and lessons I came across throughout my 19 years on this earth that I would like to share with you guys. I'll only explain 10 of them and the other 9 I'll list down cause I know I rap a span😂...So let's get to it🤗👉🏾: 1. There is no such thing as "The worst thing that has ever happened to me😭" : ...