Take it back
Life, the period between birth and death.
For most of this year I've been trying to make sense of a lot of things at level that is deeper than the surface. I've been putting effort into really getting to know the people in my life as well as what goes on in their lives. The causes behind every event, the thought process behind every decision, the lessons learnt behind every experience and the reasons behind every action. This has led to me having way too many "what is life!?" moments. I've managed to make sense of some things. However, I still fail to come to terms with other things. Which is okay I guess because well we can't always make sense of everything that happens in life but we can choose how to respond to those things even when we don't understand them.
One thing that I've definitely learnt is that every experience has either an identical or opposite effect on a person. You either end up going through life trying to reciprocate the same way you once felt during a moment or you go through life making sure you never feel what you felt ever again. Depending on how it made you feel.
For example, on one scene in Tyler Perry's "Diary of a mad black woman", the role played by Cecily Tyson (Myrtle) best sums it up: “When somebody hurts you they take power over you, if you don't forgive them then they keeps the power.” Feb 9, 2007
An experience which once left you feeling so powerless and helpless will have you going about your life never wanting to feel that way ever again. So you do everything you can to make sure that you are never on the receiving end of any painful situation. Rather, you end up being the one who inflicts the pain. However, sometimes it works out in a different way. Sometimes you end up going through life thinking you deserve to feel helpless. That you deserved getting your power taken away from you and you end up letting anyone and everyone treat you as if you're lesser than.
Both cases are a sad way to go about life. Holding on to pain, reliving it, wallowing in it, is a terrible way to live. Nobody can take away your power unless you give it to them. Don't give away your power. If you allow someone/something else to cause you to get so angry that you say or do things you later regret, or you succumb to pressure to do something against your values, you give away your power. It's important to behave according to your values, no matter what is going on around you.
We have all been hurt by different things. Gone through things which left us feeling hopeless and powerless. Started doing things that we thought would help take our power back. But you can't fix pain by causing more pain unto others. Neither should you think that you deserve to sit in the comfort of pain because someone planted the idea that you did in your mind. Jesus dealt with all of that on the cross❤.
This post was just a simple reminder that whatever you've been through, no matter what happened to you, no matter what someone did to you, you don't have to become like them. The minute you become like them, you take the crown of being the bigger jerk between the two of you. They are not your problem to deal with. You can’t fix bad with bad, or rid yourself of pain by causing more pain to others.
22 Give your burdens to the Lord,
and he will take care of you.
He will not permit the godly to slip and fall.
-Psalm 55:22
You don't have to think you deserve what they did. You don't have to go through life compromising and taking drastic measures to ensure you never feel that same pain again. Don't let people plant the idea that you are worthless into your mind. You didn't deserve what they did. So don't let them make you feel like you did.
Ephesians 2:10
"For we are God's handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do."
Isaiah 49:16
"See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands; your walls are ever before me."
John 3:16
"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life."
How to take your power back:
1. Don't waste energy complaining.
2. Accept responsibility for how you feel.
Don't let other people's behavior dictate your emotions.
3. Establish healthy boundaries.
4. Practice forgiveness.
5. Know your values.
6. Don't waste time on unproductive thoughts.
7. Avoid language that implies you're a victim.
8. Make your self-worth independent of other people's opinions.
9. Be willing to stand out from the crowd.
10. Say "no" when "no" is needed.
11. Trust yourself.
12. Let go of blame.
13. Distance yourself from toxic people.
14. Have courage to walk alone sometimes.
15. Go back to the foot of the cross❤ it all starts and ends with him. Your power lies in Jesus.
Thank you guys for taking time out to read this. 'Til next time❤
For most of this year I've been trying to make sense of a lot of things at level that is deeper than the surface. I've been putting effort into really getting to know the people in my life as well as what goes on in their lives. The causes behind every event, the thought process behind every decision, the lessons learnt behind every experience and the reasons behind every action. This has led to me having way too many "what is life!?" moments. I've managed to make sense of some things. However, I still fail to come to terms with other things. Which is okay I guess because well we can't always make sense of everything that happens in life but we can choose how to respond to those things even when we don't understand them.
One thing that I've definitely learnt is that every experience has either an identical or opposite effect on a person. You either end up going through life trying to reciprocate the same way you once felt during a moment or you go through life making sure you never feel what you felt ever again. Depending on how it made you feel.
For example, on one scene in Tyler Perry's "Diary of a mad black woman", the role played by Cecily Tyson (Myrtle) best sums it up: “When somebody hurts you they take power over you, if you don't forgive them then they keeps the power.” Feb 9, 2007
An experience which once left you feeling so powerless and helpless will have you going about your life never wanting to feel that way ever again. So you do everything you can to make sure that you are never on the receiving end of any painful situation. Rather, you end up being the one who inflicts the pain. However, sometimes it works out in a different way. Sometimes you end up going through life thinking you deserve to feel helpless. That you deserved getting your power taken away from you and you end up letting anyone and everyone treat you as if you're lesser than.
Both cases are a sad way to go about life. Holding on to pain, reliving it, wallowing in it, is a terrible way to live. Nobody can take away your power unless you give it to them. Don't give away your power. If you allow someone/something else to cause you to get so angry that you say or do things you later regret, or you succumb to pressure to do something against your values, you give away your power. It's important to behave according to your values, no matter what is going on around you.
We have all been hurt by different things. Gone through things which left us feeling hopeless and powerless. Started doing things that we thought would help take our power back. But you can't fix pain by causing more pain unto others. Neither should you think that you deserve to sit in the comfort of pain because someone planted the idea that you did in your mind. Jesus dealt with all of that on the cross❤.
This post was just a simple reminder that whatever you've been through, no matter what happened to you, no matter what someone did to you, you don't have to become like them. The minute you become like them, you take the crown of being the bigger jerk between the two of you. They are not your problem to deal with. You can’t fix bad with bad, or rid yourself of pain by causing more pain to others.
22 Give your burdens to the Lord,
and he will take care of you.
He will not permit the godly to slip and fall.
-Psalm 55:22
You don't have to think you deserve what they did. You don't have to go through life compromising and taking drastic measures to ensure you never feel that same pain again. Don't let people plant the idea that you are worthless into your mind. You didn't deserve what they did. So don't let them make you feel like you did.
Ephesians 2:10
"For we are God's handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do."
Isaiah 49:16
"See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands; your walls are ever before me."
John 3:16
"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life."
How to take your power back:
1. Don't waste energy complaining.
2. Accept responsibility for how you feel.
Don't let other people's behavior dictate your emotions.
3. Establish healthy boundaries.
4. Practice forgiveness.
5. Know your values.
6. Don't waste time on unproductive thoughts.
7. Avoid language that implies you're a victim.
8. Make your self-worth independent of other people's opinions.
9. Be willing to stand out from the crowd.
10. Say "no" when "no" is needed.
11. Trust yourself.
12. Let go of blame.
13. Distance yourself from toxic people.
14. Have courage to walk alone sometimes.
15. Go back to the foot of the cross❤ it all starts and ends with him. Your power lies in Jesus.
Thank you guys for taking time out to read this. 'Til next time❤
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