19 Lessons for 19 Years

Today I'm 19😊😅🎉🎊🎁💃🏾👑❣💫
And I'm so glad to be getting rid of 18 year old Vicky because yeah, the most happened with with her😂 just kidding. But seriously, stepping into adulthood was a huge change for me and I know that it's just the beginning. So much happened in such a short space of time and I'm grateful for it all regardless🙏🏾. As time goes by we live and we learn. However, there are a few things that have really stood out from some of the experiences and lessons I came across throughout my 19 years on this earth that I would like to share with you guys. I'll only explain 10 of them and the other 9 I'll list down cause I know I rap a span😂...So let's get to it🤗👉🏾:

1. There is no such thing as "The worst thing that has ever happened to me😭" :

Sometimes life hits, and when it hits it hits hard. I'm sure we have all gone through something that left us feeling powerless. But I want you to know that it's not the worst because you'll never experience the worst. The bible says "No weapon formed against you shall prosper" - Isaiah 54:17. So God would never allow the worst to come at you. He would never allow you to experience it. What happened to you, and what it did to you is simply a result of not expecting it. You weren't expecting it to happen. You either had high hopes for it or weren't prepared for it. I learnt this from Apostle (if you read my blog you'd know that that's my dad😂 don't forget cause he will be quoted a lot most of the time). God would never let you go through something that he knows you can't handle or that he knows you can't escape. Everything you go through has an escape - 1 Corinthians 10:13.

2. Fights/disagreements are necessary 🤯:

All my friends and family can testify that our relationships became stronger after we fought. #FACTS💪🏾. I clashed with everyone this past year😂 mmm I was on a roll. But what I realised is that fights/disagreements actually expose weaknesses in the relationship and you can't fix what you don't know . So sometimes it's necessary so that those weaknesses can be exposed and worked on in a mature way.

3. No matter what anyone does to you don't call them trash😂😂😂 eg. #menaretrash #womenaretrash. That's God's child😂. I'm guitly of this but like I'm working on it.

4. Be prepared to be called a fool

You cannot come up with a standard that is accepted by everyone. We all function according to different standards based on morals, principles etc. When you're a Christian you're functioning based on standards that are different to the world's. So don't expect people who are indulged in worldy things to understand you. Neither should you allow them to make you feel like you are the "backward" or "insane" one. However, be prepared to be called those things but don't get affected by them because you know you aren't backward and you aren't insane.

5. I used to want to grow up so bad but now that I am growing up I just want to be a baby again😭.

6. Partial obedience is complete disobedience

Some times it seems like we choose what and what not to follow from the word of God. We try to sugarcoat things and sort of twist things into making them comfortable for ourselves. We also can't be honest with each other because we want to remain on each other's "good sides". If the word of God says it is wrong, it is wrong. If you get offended it's because a part of you knows it is wrong. You wouldn't get offended if you knew that what you were doing was right in God's eyes. The word of God is pretty clear guys. If you are confused seek to know more.

7. You're not petty for putting yourself first. Block them if you want to🤷🏾‍♀️ everywhere...
Some of you are miserable because of the sake of not wanting to appear "petty" 🤚🏾 kick people who don't deserve to be in your life out of it.

8. The time of youth is the time of investment

 What you do now is really what your future will be like. Don't lie to yourself with that "I'll be serious when I'm ....". If you don't know how to work hard now, you won't know how to work hard when it matters. If you don't know how to be honest now, you'll forever be a liar. If you don't know how to respect women/men now you will never know how to respect women or men. If you can't take certain relationships seriously now, you'll never be able to take them seriously. You will be worse. These things turn into habits, to the point where it becomes spiritual. Simply saying "I'll be serious later" is not enough if you didn't know, and this mentality of thinking that you'll be serious later or that certain habits will stop because you are now in a particular situation is ignorance, eg. Some of y'all think getting married will magically make you loyal😂 bhudhi...sisi... wake up😂👐🏽Especially those people that just play everyone and claim that when they get married they'll be serious😂🤚🏾ok bro/sis. You'll be even worse in a marriage situation because you never took that time to invest. Investment determines long-term living. Also some sins are generational (Deuteronomy 5:9). What you do now your kids will do in excess. If  you'd don't deal with it, it'll pass on to the next generation. "If you can't do it for yourself atleast do it for your children" - Pastor Mike Todd

9. You won't always be a great judge of character🤕🧐🤧:

There were certain people who were in my life when I was 18 who aren't in it anymore, but I thought they would be. You think you know someone until they hit you with the switch up of the year👐🏽 and you won't even see it coming😂. It hurts, but it's good for you. Trust me.

10. You won't fulfill all the promises you make to yourself🤞🏽:

There were a lot of things that I promised myself I would not do, but did anyways. A lot of things I promised myself that I would do, but didn't manage to do all of them. This doesn't make you a failure. Trying is better than nothing, so keep making promises to yourself, it gives you direction and something to work towards🎯

11. Family first❤:

I love these guys❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Endlessly! Appreciate your family, No One will ever have your back like they do.

12. God loves me❤:

This girl is the furthest thing from perfect. BUT God still does the most. He has never shortened His hand because of my mistakes or imperfections. He continues to be God🙏🏾❤❤❤ and I love Him too😊

13. Getting angry is not always the answer🤬:
 
Anyone who knows Vicky knows that she can and knows how to get angry😂 it's deep guys. Also I am a firm believer of by fire by force🔥 What I actually realised was that I used to get angry to justify my feelings towards a particular situation. But in the process I'd end up hurting someone's feelings cause my anger would get the best of me. So it's not worth it in the end....

14. Nobody can take away what's meant to be yours🎁:

I'm not a perfect person but God still does the most for me. This doesn't justify my mistakes and I'm not trying to make it seem like you can do whatever and God will always be like "it's okay my child" all the time, but there are just some things that God won't take away because he wants you to have them. They were specifically made for you. This is her's or this is his. In giving you a reward he may also teach you a lesson😂 you will enjoy and suffer at the same time. People won't want you to have it but God will make sure they don't find a suitable alternative, because it's for you. You don't have to be liked by people for you to succeed. Your success does not lie in people but it lies in God. People will have sleepless nights trying to get the things God has in store for you but they'll never attain them because they are chasing something that isn't theirs. So pray for the grace to be able to accept the things that God wants to give you and the wisdom to handle them right

15. People who take your personal issues with them to social media must not be in your life😂✌🏽like🤨...bruh

16. I'm not always right🤷🏾‍♀️:

I'm always right😂🤚🏾psshhhtt what're you tuning?!😂 just kidding. Maybe. But what I did learn was that even when you are right about something it's not always necessary to prove that you are right. I know it's annoying when you are so sure about something and you're just trying to help or be honest with someone but they choose not to listen or disagree. But we have to understand that people think differently and that it's not your life. So you have to leave people to decide for themselves. If you are right about something, only time will tell. Good friends don't say I told you so😂 but you can think it and have the satisfaction of finally proving your point.

17. One bad/disappointing moment doesn't take away your accomplishments and achievements🤗💫

18. There is a VIP section in this very hot place where people who mess with God's children go😂so don't worry about those people😊☻

19. It does get better👊🏽❤
 
Just to finish us off. I once came across a picture on instagram which read "I know non-christians which act way better than those who claim to be Christian". In response to this a wise young lady named Ngati (check her out @lady_nga❤) said "being a Christian is surrending to the fact that you are not perfect".  Being a Christian is a process. One does not just become "Holy". It is admitting  that you have tried to do this thing called life on your own and realised that you CAN'T. It does not mean that all of a sudden you become holier than thou. That is why the bible doesn't hide the sins of those that God used in mighty ways because He made us. He knows our urges, our mistakes and our temptations. If we were perfect there would be no need for a higher power. That is why in Matthew 11:28-30 God says:
"Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”
Pastor Mike Todd said that God can't help who you pretend to be. He can only bless the real you. Not the you that you pretend to be. So when it comes to God be vulnerable. Let him in. Don't fear the comments that the people around you have about YOUR journey with GOD. you got this❤

I hope you guys enjoyed this post😊❤ 'til next time
God bless❣