Opposites don't attract

Opposites don't attract

Hey guys I hope you're all good and that life is treating you well🥀❤. So I'm back with relationships part 3 and it was basically inspired by a conversation that I had with someone recently at a farewell party that I had attended for one of my friends who was going off to university. So yeah I'm not here to rant today 😂I just wanna share some of the stuff that I found to be really good from that conversation.

So basically this guy (25) recently got engaged and at some point during the farewell we were all just congratulating him. Then I asked him "how did you know?". How did you know it was her and how did you know that it was time? I always ask a lot of people this question and I always get the answer, "I just knew". Which I guess is alright but I've always wanted to understand it a bit deeper. So this guy's explanation was so enlightening.

He explained that he made a deliberate decision to stop dating when He was 15/16 years old. This wasn't because of any particular reason but he just wanted to become more deliberate with his life and not go about it aimlessly and because of this he started working on his relationship with God. His faith got better and over time he got into a really good space emotionally and spiritually. Now because of this he became very emotionally and spiritually sensitive. He would be able to easily familiarize or unfamiliarize with people based on the state of their emotions and spirit. Within the first few conversations that he would have with someone he would be able to tell whether or not there would be a connection and in most of the cases there was a clash almost immediately because of differences in their emotional and spiritual state.

He explained that this whole "opposites attract" thing may be true when it comes to personality traits and it'll work quite well between the two of you. Maybe he's loud and she's quiet. He's more outgoing and she's more reserved. He's musical and she's sporty. He's artistic and she's more intellectual. However, opposites attract doesn't work when it comes to the state of your emotions and spirit. Your spirit can't stand being around unfamiliar energy because what connects you to each other are the similarities. So it is important that those similarities are good and not bad ones. Do you familiarize based on love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control, which are the fruits of the spirit (Galatians 5:22-23)? Or you familiarize based on pride, anger, a fixed idea of how God works, relying on physical things and the constant need for special attention? These are all internal enemies. When pride meets pride one of them will be crushed. Which results in anger because anger is prides baby😂 anger is crushed pride, wounded pride. Spiritually and emotionally you attract what you are and if those things are built off of hate and bitterness and brokenness then you guys will continue to break each other some more. Someone who is so familiar with the fruits of the spirit and who exercises them daily will not be oblivious to the opposite. Love and hate can't mix. This is where being spiritually sensitive comes in because we find ourselves being surrounded by the most toxic people because we ourselves would have become toxic. We don't consistently speak to God or feed our spirits with the rights things so we stop being spiritually aware and that spiritual alarm is switched off. That thing that tells you nah fam this ain't it, isn't there anymore. The light in you, the Holy Spirit, it doesn't reside in you anymore.

Becoming spiritually sensitive caused him to become very aware of people who didn't have or exercise the same things that he did. There would be no connection at all. So when he met his now fiancé he explained that there was no spiritual or emotional clash. Immediately they connected on that level. They felt each other's spiritual and emotional energy. She had probably been doing the same before she met him.
So opposites may attract in terms of personality but that will never be the case in terms of spirit.

Working on herself, getting good with God, serving God, being set free from insecurity and totally being at peace with the work God was trying to do in her and through her. This instantaneous connection got them to keep wanting to be around each other. To share the good that they both had. They had found the person who they wanted to share these good things with for the rest of their lives. That's when he knew.

2 Corinthians 6:14-16 talks about how we should not be unequally yoked.

Being whole or complete before meeting or getting with your person doesn't make you immune to insecurity. It just means you're at peace and totally trust that God's got you. Being good with God and filled by the holy spirit doesn't make you immune to doing bad or sinning. But like Pastor Mike todd said, those sins will only stay on the surface and you will be able to draw yourself back to God. Without letting things get out of hand. Before letting things get out of hand. Just that element of trying and making a deliberate decision puts you on the right track.

Sometimes we delay ourselves from getting the good things that God wants to give us because we are so busy and so focused on our own things which will get us no where. You'll end up getting something that you should've gotten at 25 at 40 because God was just waiting for you to lay down your stuff and surrender to His. Don't delay yourself.

This conversation had me shooketh😂 and I really just wanted to share it with you guys. I didn't rant today😂 but yeah I definitely learnt some things which I feel are some of the best advice I've gotten concerning relationships.

That's all for today guys💃🏾🌹❤ take care. 'Til next time❤